The Astrology of Love
As an astrologer, I deal with questions about love, relationships and compatibility all.the.time and they usually go something like this: I’m a ______, but he/she is a ______. Does that mean we’re incompatible? Since Venus (our little love planet) is going retrograde tomorrow, I thought I’d do a post to address this very question. And the answer is...yes and no.
Pop astrology and numerous horoscope blogs would have us all believe that our sun signs are the biggest factor when it comes to relationship compatibility. Are you a Scorpio? Stay away from that Aquarius. Leo and Pisces? Saddle up for rocky terrain. And don’t even get me started on Taurus and Gemini.
In reality though, determining your compatibility with someone based on your sun sign alone isn’t a true reflection of how you’ll get along in a relationship. Our sun signs rule our self-perceptions and identities, so trying to figure out if someone’s a good match for you based on just that is like picking your romantic partners based entirely on the outfit they’re wearing when you meet them. And while some of us have definitely done that, it’s not the best way to determine long-term compatibility (if that’s what you’re looking for). To get a sense of how you’ll really click, have a look at your:
The Moon rules our emotional lives, and who we are at our core. To really get a sense of how deep your relationship can go and whether or not you’ll be able to emotionally support one another, use the same comparisons you would for your sun signs but apply them to your moon signs instead. Geminis and Leos famously get along, so if Leo is your moon sign and Gemini is your partner’s, you’ll have an easy and stimulating connection that just seems to “flow.” If your moon is in Scorpio and your partner’s moon is in another water sign like Cancer or Pisces, chances are you’ll be able to have a loving, supporting relationship even if your sun signs are incompatible.
Venus represents love, beauty and the things we find valuable and attractive. In relationship astrology, Venus describes our love nature and how we behave in relationships. Again, applying here the same compatibility guidelines that are traditionally used for sun signs will give you an idea of how you’ll love and be loved by one another. Is your Venus in an earth sign like Capricorn or Virgo? You’ll feel an instant camaraderie and connection with other earth sign Venus people because you’ll speak the same “love language.” Is your Venus in an opposite sign from your partner’s? You’ll be able to create a balanced relationship in which each provides the things that the other one lacks.
Since Venus is going retrograde tomorrow, it’s a good time to reflect on your relationships. Go over your boundaries and see if they need to be re-assessed or re-iterated. Single? Make a list of qualities you’re looking for in a partner, concentrate on loving yourself first, and then let the universe do its work. The energy is supportive of manifestation right now, especially in matters of love. In a relationship? Do a check-in with your partner to make sure you’re still on the same page about important things, and see how they’re feeling.
Don’t forget to meditate with those heart chakra stones! Rose quartz, green aventurine, rhodochrosite, pink tourmaline, rhodonite and emerald are all supportive during Venus retrogrades. And if you’d like a more in-depth assessment of your personal relationship compatibility, get in touch with us to book a reading!
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- Meghan Sandor